The importance of friends to a healthy, happy retirement

The importance of friends to a healthy, happy retirement

How healthy are your friendships?  The answer will have a huge impact on your retirement.  Research shows that friends (or lack thereof) can affect your health, happiness and even your habits.  Let’s look at the findings, examine some of the challenges your friendships will face as you age and discuss a few ways to make and maintain friendships during retirement.

How Friends Affect Us

According to the Mayo Clinic, friendships can affect your health and happiness in a number of important ways:

  • They provide support in tough times.
  • They help you find belonging and purpose
  • They reduce your stress and increase happiness
  • They give self-confidence and self-worth
  • They can help you through difficult times like death, divorce, illness or job loss
  • They provide accountability and positive peer pressure
  • They help reduce the risk of things like depression, high blood pressure and unhealthy BMI.

In addition to the benefits above, friendships can help keep your mind sharp.  Several studies have found that there is a strong connection between loneliness and cognitive decline.  For example, a 2018 study in the Journals of Gerontology found that loneliness was associated with a 40% increase in dementia among study participants.  In another study, researchers in the Netherlands found that people who feel lonely are about 1.6 times more likely to get dementia.

There’s also evidence that the importance of friendships increases as we age.  Dr. William Chopik at Michigan State University conducted a study on how our relationships affect our health and happiness as we age.  The results showed that the benefits we get from healthy family relationships stays level throughout life, but the value of good friendships has a greater impact on our health and happiness as we age.  According to Dr. Chopik:

“Friendship quality often predicts health more so than the quality of other relationships.”

The Problem + The Solution

So the benefits of friends are huge, but there’s a problem.  Making and maintaining quality friendships gets harder as you age.  In mid-life you have competing priorities like kids and work.  As you age, caring for your parents often gets added to the list.  And life isn’t static.  Circumstances change and friendships ebb and flow.  Major life events—death, divorce, job loss, moving and retirement—can derail even the best of friendships.  So if you want to enter retirement with good friends that have a positive impact on your health, happiness and cognitive function, you need to be intentional.

That means investing time, effort and often money into your friendships.  It means being kind, likeable and trustworthy.  It means listening and being transparent.  It means being reliable and available.  It means celebrating victories and being there when life is challenging.  It means being loyal and avoiding drama.  It means being proactive about spending time together.  All those things have a compounding effect over time.  They deepen friendships and give them a solid foundation.  And as we saw earlier, those deep friendships take on added meaning as you age. 

A Few Practical Applications

The primary takeaway is this: Don’t underestimate the power of friends.  They can make or break your retirement.  Start working on them now.  If you’re looking for a good place to begin, forward this article to one or two of your friends and start a conversation.  Ask how you can be a better friend.  Plan an adventure or fun outing.  Start a new tradition.  Discuss ways to deepen your friendship.  Compare retirement plans and make sure they overlap in ways that will allow you to maintain your friendship.  All of this takes effort, but it’s worth it.  The payoff is a healthier, happier life for both you and those you care about. 

Be Intentional,

Joe

5 things Medicare doesn’t cover

5 things Medicare doesn’t cover

Most people rely on Medicare to cover their health expenses during retirement, but it won’t pay for everything.  Here are 5 things that Medicare doesn’t cover.  

Deductibles, coinsurance and copayments: Depending on the type of Medicare you choose, you’ll still be responsible for certain premiums, deductibles, coinsurance and copayments.  For example, Medicare Part A is usually free, but you’ll pay a $1,364 deductible for each benefit period and if you’re in the hospital for more than 60 days you’ll pay a coinsurance amount for each day.  Beyond a certain number of days, you are responsible for all costs.  Part B has premium costs, a $185 annual deductible and 20% coinsurance on most services.  Parts C and D have costs as well.

Prescription drugs: Original Medicare (Parts A and B) doesn’t cover prescription drug costs.  To get that coverage you need to purchase a Part D plan.

Routine vision care, dental care and hearing aids: Original Medicare (Parts A and B) doesn’t cover things like eye exams, most dental care, dentures, hearing aids, acupuncture or routine foot care.  Medicare Advantage (Part C) may cover some of those things, but you need to pay extra for Medicare Advantage.  

Long-Term care: As people age, they often need help with daily activities like eating, dressing, bathing and using the restroom.  You can get help with these types of things by moving into an assisted living facility, but Medicare typically will not cover any of those costs.  

Medical care overseas:  Medicare will typically not cover medical costs you incur while traveling outside the U.S. and its territories.  There are a few exceptions, such as when you’re on a cruise ship in U.S. territorial waters or if you’re traveling to or from Alaska via Canada and the closest hospital that can treat you is in Canada.

These uncovered costs can add up to hundreds of thousands of dollars over the course of your retirement, so you’ll want to plan accordingly.  Earmark a portion of your nest egg for health expenses and then seriously consider purchasing additional insurance, such as long-term care insurance or a Medicare supplement plan, to cover anything not covered by Medicare.  For more information on Medicare, visit www.medicare.gov.  

Be Intentional,

Joe

How to optimize your life for retirement

How to optimize your life for retirement

To optimize something is to “make it as perfect, effective or functional as possible.”  That’s a good goal for retirement.  After all, you only have one shot at it, so make it the best it can be.  Here’s how to optimize your life for retirement.

Control your time. Think of life as a pie chart that is divided into time you control and time controlled by others. The goal is to gradually shrink the piece of the pie that is controlled by others.  The smaller that piece becomes, the more “retired” you are.  The more time you control, the more you can focus on the things you want to do rather than the things you have to do.  How do you control more of your time?  The primary way is to be financially independent, so make sure your finances are on track.

Optimize your location.  The American Enterprise Institute recently published a study on how location affects happiness.  They concluded that people who live closer to the things they want to do are happier, more involved, more satisfied with life and less likely to be lonely.  Kind of a no brainer, right?  If you love to ski, live close to the mountains.  If you want to spend time with your kids, live in the same city.  And the study found that proximity works for small things too.  If you live near a multitude of amenities—the coffee shop, gym, community center, restaurants—you’ll likely get out more, feel less isolated and be happier. 

Hack your health.  A hack is a trick or method that increases efficiency.  I have a friend who recently started a physical therapy practice that focuses on prevention rather than recovery.  I think the idea is a brilliant hack.  Similar to the dentist, you go in twice a year for evaluation and a checkup.  He takes some baseline measurements and looks for problems.  Then he asks what types of things you like to do (e.g. hike, ski, golf, garden, run, tennis, etc.) and gives you exercises that will allow you to do those things for as long as possible.  I like to hike, so we’re working on leg strength, balance, joints and endurance.  The idea is to keep me healthy and active doing the things I want to do for as long as possible.  How about you?  What types of things do you want to be able to continue doing as you age?  Schedule some time with a local physical therapist and ask them to help you optimize your health for the lifestyle that you want to live.

Be specific.  At the risk of sounding obvious, you have a much greater chance of accomplishing a goal if you know exactly what it is you want to do.  If you want your retirement to run smoothly, make specific plans. 

Take some at bats.  One of the biggest mistakes I see some people make is that they constantly defer their dreams.  The best advice I can give you today is to start taking some at bats.  Right now.  Even if you’re not retired.  Especially if you’re not retired.  The worst that can happen is that things don’t work out and you get rolled a little bit, so you dust yourself off and try something different.  Ironically, that’s also one of the best things that can happen, because that failure is feedback.  It turns out we’re pretty terrible at knowing what’s going to make us happy.  The more stuff you try, even if you don’t end up liking it, the better idea you’ll have of what’s important to you, who’s important to you, what you like, what you dislike, what makes you happy and what you’re passionate about.  That makes you more self-aware so you can design an optimized life that takes you where you want to go.

Be a system thinker.  Retirement has a ton of moving parts that need to work together to produce the results that you want.  Those parts include things like money, relationships, pursuits, Social Security, Medicare, healthcare, distribution planning, tax planning, housing and insurance to name a few.  Those parts work together in a complex system.   If the parts work, the system works.  If one or more parts isn’t functioning properly, the system breaks down.  To optimize your life for retirement, make sure that each part of that system is working as it should.  Some parts you’ll be able to handle on your own.  For other parts, you’ll likely need to enlist the help of people like your accountant, financial adviser or doctor.

Simplify.  As you take more control of your time and plan your transition into retirement, make a “Stop Doing” list.  Certain things will no longer be relevant to your new plans.  Go through all your activities, obligations and commitments and decide what needs to go.  Once finished, your schedule will be much less cluttered and you will be able to use your time more efficiently.  Do the same thing with the physical clutter in your life. 

Retirement is not a one size fits all proposition.  By focusing on the items mentioned above and tailoring them to your unique situation, you can optimize your life for the retirement that you want. 

Be Intentional,

Joe

Finish the year strong

Finish the year strong

We just wrapped up Labor Day Weekend here in the U.S.  That is the unofficial end of summer and it means we only have four months to go before we finish up this year and start a new decade.  That’s plenty of time to get a few things done and finish the year strong. 

Think about any financial, investing, lifestyle, relationship, health or retirement goals you had for 2019.  How have you done so far?  How can you make the most out of the next four months?  Focus in on one or two areas where you’d like to make progress before year-end and get to work.  Maybe that’s making a written retirement plan, increasing your savings rate or making a plan to finally get debt free.  Maybe that’s repairing a relationship, starting a new workout program or learning a new skill.  Maybe you’ve reached your health deductible for the year and it’s a good time to schedule that procedure.  Or maybe it’s time to plan that trip (always a good idea).  Think about how good it would feel to finish the year with a few major items checked off your To-Do list.  Think about how much progress you could make in 2020 if you ended 2019 with solid momentum. 

Part of my job here is to help people avoid complacency.  To push you to have a tough conversation with yourself about what you really want out of life and to encourage you to take those plans really seriously.  Consider yourself pushed.  Touch base if there’s anything I can do to help.  And props for everything you’re doing so far.  The fact that you’re following along at this site tells me that you’re no slouch.  Saving for retirement and being intentional with life are not easy tasks.  Most people don’t do it.  You’re in that small minority of people who are laying the foundation for their future through discipline, hard work and good stewardship.  Well done!  Keep up the good work.  Finish the year strong.

Be Intentional,

Joe

How to manage fears and avoid mistakes when markets go haywire.

How to manage fears and avoid mistakes when markets go haywire.

The markets had a great first half of the year.  Stocks were up.  Bonds were up.  Both U.S. and International markets were up.  Everything seemed to be working.  Unfortunately, the second half has had a rockier start.  And given the headlines (e.g. trade war, weakening international economies, excess debt loads, inverted yield curve, etc.), that volatility could continue for a while.  Given that, I thought it would be a good time to scroll through the archives at Intentional Retirement and review a few past articles on how to deal with volatility, keep your emotions in check and make sure your retirement plans stay on track. Even though they were written during past periods of volatility, the lessons are just as relevant today.

Be Intentional,

Joe